when I like someone I start obsessing about their behavior towards me — constantly trying to predict their steps and what’s gonna happen next. I fall into expectations, and when reality does not meet them I get upset and it affects me. and then I have this defense mechanism of denial — like oh, he’s not good enough anyway, he’s not worth it, Im not really into him, Im valuable as I am anyway, etc etc but on the inside Im hurt that I was not chosen. I really wonder how do I get rid of this pattern and stop expecting something from a guy, but having my standards at the same time

this is so valuable, thank you for the new perspective, really needed this