📌 FAQ — The "Job Contact" Etiquette: How to Ask Without Being "That Guy"
If you've been working in the industry a while, you will understand this. I ran into it today. You’re chatting with another diver, you know they’ve got a lead on a project, and you want that contact email—but you can feel the hesitation, they're not forthcoming. The reality? For most divers, self-preservation is the priority. Nobody wants to hand over a golden ticket only to watch someone else take their slot. Usually, a diver will only cough up a contact when two things align: 1. Zero Risk: They’ve already secured their spot. 2. The Respect Factor: They actually want to work with you. If you want to navigate this without the "social tax" or awkwardness, try this two-step tactical approach: 1. Dance Around the Jugular Before asking for the info, ask about their status first: "Have you been in touch with [XYZ Company] about getting a slot on this one?" - If the answer is YES: They’re already in the system. Go straight for the ask. "Nice. Do you have a direct email for the Super or the crewing coordinator you could flick my way?" - If the answer is NO (or "Still waiting"): This is where the tension lives. Don't push it. 2.Down the Line Play If they haven’t secured their spot yet, take the pressure off: "Fair play. Once you’re officially onboard and settled, would you mind sending that email address through? I’d keen to get my CV on the pile." You're at the will of the gods there but bound to get a straight up answer. Yes or no - follow up with them in a month: ''How's that project going? Need any more guys out there?'' The Bottom Line: Networking in this industry doesn't have to be taboo, but it does require reading the room. Respect the fact that everyone is looking out for number one until their contract is signed. Once they’re safe, most good hands are happy to pull the next person up, especially if they're known.