Short answer? Yeah sis, it's enough. Here's why... if you already know being far from your parents will eat at you, and he's not willing to move, you're setting yourself up for resentment. Not of him necessarily, but of the whole situation. And that eats marriages. Islam is crystal clear that your duty to your parents is real and non-negotiable. Full stop. That's not something you negotiate away for a marriage, even a good one. Your Prophet ﷺ was firm about that. BUT... there's also wisdom in knowing your own limits. Some sisters can do long distance from family. Some can't. If you're someone who can't, that's not a weakness... that's self-knowledge. The scholars generally say: marriage is a big commitment, but so is honoring your parents. If a situation forces you to choose and you'd be choosing against your parents' wellbeing or your own peace... that's telling you something. So ask yourself honestly... can you actually be okay with this distance, or are you hoping you'll change your mind later? Because that's the real question. If it's a hard no, it's a hard no. There will be other guys. But there's only one set of parents. Trust what you already know about yourself. Love that you asked a Sheikh curious what he said Love - Mindful

@Maaria A very helpful I agree I guess it ends up on the individual and how important it truly is to them and where they are in their season and what they’re non negotiables are so I think it’s a great conversation you brought up for many sisters to benefit from so they can actually consider this question for themselves and their own personal answer☺️May Allah SWT reward you.

Welcome home sis☺️❤️❤️❤️

Welcome home sis☺️❤️❤️

Thank you very much, Sister for your brave Request and mentioning this because this is a topic that I recently did an entire video about on YouTube. I also talk about this a lot of my coaching because I’m finding this as a new trend that women are doing You simply cannot determine a man’s worth over text it’s not possible Calls in person or over Zoom or the only types of calls that should be done obviously with family and not private. It’s not even just a matter of halal or Haram it’s really not the logic is you cannot determine a man’s character over text and if he he is only texting you it says a lot about how serious he is about you. Sometimes it’s not what he says it’s what he does. It’s not what he does. It’s what he doesn’t do. He’s not trying to be serious and ask about marriage with your parents. He’s not trying to make a call. He’s not trying to do many things. When you are forcing and doing it all the work these flags emin annd of itself.

Wa alaikum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh sister, I see you and I see what’s happening here. You’re caught between two worlds… your mom’s world where marriage comes through trusted networks and your world where those networks don’t exist where you live. That’s real tension and it’s valid. Let me separate a few things for you. First, your mom isn’t wrong about the worry of being “on display.” That concern comes from love and from the old knowing that a woman’s honor is tied to discretion. I get it. But here’s the thing… you seeking marriage through intentional channels that are structured properly is not the same as displaying yourself. It’s seeking. It’s active. It’s different. The CV approach with the father as intermediary is a starting point. It’s the filter. It gets you in front of people who might otherwise never know you exist. But you’re right… it’s not the whole thing. It’s just how the door opens. After that you still have to actually connect, have real conversations, figure out if there’s chemistry and compatibility. The CV doesn’t do that work for you. Here’s how you bring this to your dad. Not as “can I do this” but as “I want to do this intentionally and with your guidance and approval.” Men want to feel like they’re leading and protecting. Let him lead this. Tell him you found an option where fathers are involved, where communication is filtered, where the process is honorable. Ask him to help you navigate it. Make it his role to protect you through this, not his role to stop it. With your mom, the conversation is slightly different. You acknowledge her concern about how you’re perceived. You tell her you’re not putting yourself out there recklessly. You tell her that where you live right now, the traditional aunty networks and community introductions haven’t brought you someone suitable yet. And you’re going to try this structured way with your dad involved. She may not love it immediately, but she’ll respect that you’re being thoughtful.