Let's start with care. You are worth more than anyone around you can imagine. Create a bond with a new idea. Pick one skill or attribute you do not have and would help you with a current problem you are having. Now activate that attribute by giving it name. Next be kind and give that new bond a compliment be grateful, loving, and enlightened its purpose. Let it know its attribute or skill is needed and wanted and nothing can break our bond. No design with purpose some shape.