For most of my life, I chased whatever felt good in the moment. I liked having fun, making people laugh, being the guy everybody wanted around. Toward the end of high school that kind of became my identity, and honestly, it followed me well into adulthood. Drinking, partying, late nights, always looking for a laugh or a good time. That was normal for me. Even after getting married and having kids, a lot of that mindset stayed with me. I loved my family deeply, but I still lived like I could balance one foot in the world and one foot in faith. As long as I wasn’t “hurting anybody,” I convinced myself I was doing alright. As seasons of life came and went, life became a struggle. Deployments took a lot out of me mentally. Between 2019 and 2021 I was gone for 18 months. During COVID I had to watch my family struggle from a distance and there’s something about not being able to help the people you love that changes you. Watching my family go through hard seasons honestly, specifically my children, broke me. I got angry. Bitter. I remember sitting there one day saying with complete confidence that God didn’t exist. My wife looked at me and with just as much confidence, but way more grace, said: “God does exist, and you’re missing all the good He’s already given you.” My wife has lived through things that would destroy a lot of people, and somehow, she still held onto her faith. Seeing her faith forced me to take a hard look at myself. Not long after that I remember sitting alone in my car one night completely defeated. The drinking wasn’t helping. The distractions weren’t helping. Trying to be a good person wasn’t helping. None of it fixed anything. That was the first time in my life I felt I truly surrendered. I not so politely demanded God to show me He was real. I begged Him to protect my family. I told Him I would give anything for them to be okay. I prayed the dangerous prayer. “God, whatever you want of me, I’ll do it.” And no, lightning didn’t strike the car and my whole life didn’t magically change overnight. But slowly, things started changing.