Throne Of Her Own

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Most of us walked into healing carrying a story we didn't choose. Before we go anywhere together — what is the story that followed you here? Not your whole life. Just the one that's been loudest lately. 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿I'll go first.🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿 For years, I carried the story that I was too emotional. It lived in me. Like something was fundamentally wrong with the way I was made. I spent so much energy managing it, shrinking it, apologizing for it — trying to be easier for a world that didn't have space for what I felt. What I didn't know then was where that story came from. It came from a mother who couldn't meet me there. Not because I was too much — but because she had never been taught how to hold her own emotions, let alone mine. She was unavailable in the ways that mattered most. As a little girl I couldn't explain it to myself. The only thought a child can have: something must be wrong with me. When I finally walked through the door of my own healing, I found the root of it. And what I found wasn't a flaw. I am an empath. I feel deeply. That depth — the very thing I spent years trying to contain — is one of my greatest gifts. I honor that part of me more and more every day. That is what this work does. It takes the story that was handed to you and asks: does this actually belong to you? Now it's your turn. What story followed you here? Drop it in the comments — as much or as little as you're ready to share. You're among women who understand. And if this resonates — share it. There is a woman somewhere who needs to read these words today. ✨Coach Ashley✨

Ashley Hairston

2h •

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The common stories we carry

Nobody sat you down and handed you a list. Nobody said — here are the beliefs you'll carry, here are the stories that will run quietly in the background of every decision you make, every relationship you enter, every time you shrink back from something that was meant for you. They just... passed them down. Through what they said. Through what they didn't say. Through what you watched them live. And you absorbed it all before you were old enough to choose differently. So today I want to give you something most of us were never given. A name for it. Because you cannot release what you have never been allowed to see. Here are 15 of the most common stories women carry — not because something is wrong with you, but because something was handed to you that was never yours to begin with. Read slowly. Notice what lands. ✦ I am too much. ✦ I am not enough. ✦ My worth is what I produce. ✦ I have to earn love. ✦ It is selfish to put myself first. ✦ If I stay small, I stay safe. ✦ I must be in control to be okay. ✦ My voice causes problems. ✦ I am responsible for everyone else's feelings. ✦ Wanting more is ungrateful. ✦ I have to be needed to belong. ✦ If I trust people, I will get hurt. ✦ I must be perfect to be acceptable. ✦ Strong women don't need help. ✦ If people knew the real me, they would leave. You don't have to claim all of them. But I imagine at least one of those stopped you. Made your chest do something. That one? That's where we start. Drop the number in the comments — or just the words if you feel called. You don't have to explain yourself. You don't have to have it figured out. Just let yourself be seen for a moment. That is already the work. 🤍

3h •

I forgive my mother for what she could not give, and I give myself what I always deserved.