Expectations of another person come from your past and have nothing to do with your spouse. Unconsciously, you want your partner to heal your past hurt, and disappointments when they are not capable of healing these in you.

If you've ever wanted a MAP to show you the differences between the wrong path that leads to divorce and resentment and the right path that leads to fulfillment, companionship, and love, well here it is.

Is life fair? NO! Fairness has two sides: what you owe and deserve. Owing and Deserving are Obligation, and Entitlement. We live in an entitled society, where the message is constantly, what you deserve. If you "deserve" or are "entitled" to something from someone, don't they "owe" or are they "obligated" to you because this is the other side of the equation? YES! The visceral reaction most people have when they encounter entitlement in another person is to recoil or resist, distance themselves, or pull away because this is the inherent obligation reaction to another's entitlement. A few steps down the road is "will-conflict", the most destructive element in all relationships.