Nov '25 • Anchor Experiences
Notes from “It’s Not Them, It’s You”
Here’s the notes from the session:
Mistake #1: Thinking Your Standard Makes You a “Gold Digger”
Scripture: Philippians 4:19 — “And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.”
Remember God is Source; provision is His idea.
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Mistake #2: Premature Commitment (Choosing Potential Over Proof)
Scripture: Proverbs 4:23 — “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”
Guarding your heart doesn’t mean closing it — it means filtering who gets access.
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Mistake #3: Your Approach Lacks Feminine Invitation
Your presence and approach lacks femininity (you initiate, or are desperate)
Scripture: Proverbs 18:22 — “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.”
This verse confirms that he finds, but you are found. You are the good thing — not the go-getter.
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The Kept Worthy Awareness Exercise™
Instructions: Rate each statement 1–5 (1 = rarely true… 5 = consistently true).
Recognize:
1. I clearly state my preference for masculine provision without defensiveness.
2. I can quickly identify counterfeits vs KeepHers based on pattern, not vibes.
3. I honor my standards in public and private.
Receive:
4) I keep options open until I’m clearly, consistently chosen.
5) I resist over-functioning and allow pursuit to lead.
6) I set boundaries without apology and uphold them calmly.
Reciprocate:
7) I respond to leadership with appreciation, respect, and softness.
8) I communicate needs as invitations, not indictments.
9) I celebrate progress, not just perfection.
Singles:
10) I can articulate my courtship process and stick to it.
Wives:
10) We have 1–2 active agreements that restore leadership lanes this month.
Scoring & next move:
• 9–24: Stay in Keptie Academy™… revisit SELF modules and attend the Keptie Roundtable for live support. Choose one standard to practice this week.
• 25–36: You’re ready to be stretched. Reserve your Love Alignment Week because it’ll give you clarity on where you need to focus specifically and tailored guidance from me on what next steps to take.
• 37–50: Ascend. You’ll thrive with monthly mastery, live coaching, and accountability inside The Keptie Community™. It’s time to upgrade!
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Keptie Consideration (journal prompts):
1. Where am I over-functioning in the name of “being strong,” and what will I stop doing this week?
2. What proof will I require before exclusivity or renewed intimacy?
3. How will I communicate one clear invitation—without control—within 48 hours?
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Accountability Is Attractive: The Kept-Worthy Ownership Oath
“I release excuses… I embrace alignment.
I choose standards… I welcome pursuit.
I honor my femininity… I invite leadership.
I recognize… I receive… I reciprocate.”
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Notes from “It’s Not Them, It’s You”
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