Have You Heard The Chair Theory?
When you walk into a room, tired and with an arm load of bags... are you offered a chair or do you have to ask for one? We all have a table in life. The people who value you and deserve a seat at your table will shift over and pull up a chair for you the moment you arrive. They don't need to be asked. Some people will let you stand at the edge of the doorway, make you wait, ask for permission, or act like your need is an inconvenience. If you have to ask for a chair, you are trying to sit at the wrong table. These people will never offer you consistent support. They will make you explain your needs and then diminish them, only help if you remind them, act confused about you needing something and give you the bare minimum. There could be a thousand excuses you make for these people. And those may all be valid. But you both are not on the same level. 🚨You are not asking for too much, they are offering too little. In life, you have limited seating at your table. For the right people, you don't have to prove yourself. You don't have to earn comfort or beg for basic effort. You don't have to figure it out by yourself or deal with it all. They see you, they care and they show up. The chair was already there with your name on it before you even showed up. If your relationship (whether love, friendship or business), feels like you are standing holding the groceries while others sit, you're around people that are okay with watching you struggle. Stand up, leave the room with grace and walk into a space where someone says, "I saved you a seat." Your health depends on this.