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Sticks and Stones… but still…
Sticks and stones are what break your bones so why do we let words hurt us? When those we love and care for say hurtful things about themselves or towards others, especially us, it’s easy to let them land. Even when we know most often what they’re saying rarely has much to do with the feelings that spurred them.
I know from being a parent and a teacher how hard it is to see clearing through the forest of emotions and words that cloud what’s really going on. I’ve learned how great leaders navigate these emotions in adults and teens, to find that we need to do the internal work along with the relational. If we practice opening our senses in concert with an open playful mind, we can navigate the feelings and probe past the words to find hopeful paths forward.
I apply these principles daily with my most challenging students to find that what I’m often looking at his fear and all they need is calm open permissive support, and some direction to get unstuck and find happiness and what they’re doing.
I find the approach to be the same whether working with teenagers, new teachers, and experienced ones alike. But we can’t do it on our own. We need people to sit together to see the problem and to try even the fantastical to find unforeseen possibilities.
With all the experience you have as a wise parent, what still lands on you frustrating your ability to stay calm enough to root out the deeper problem?
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