4h • Inner Child Work
Containers.
As I sit here and work in my car. I get so much done. I feel safe, confined and held. I can't wonder in my house- start a load of laundry, wipe a counter or make myself a snack and then grab a diet coke. But- here is the thing.. It actually relaxes me to work in a small space like my car. Brought me to this thought.
We actually LOVE boundaries. Or containers.
Babies love to be swaddled- you know when you unswaddle them and the do the starfish, free falling scare. Hahaha. That's our nervous systems when we are given too much too soon.
- Kids thrive with clear limits — structure makes them feel safe to explore inside the space you’ve created.
- Animals like colts or horses do better in smaller pens when they’re young — too much space too soon overwhelms them.
Boundaries don’t suffocate you. They hold you steady so you can expand from a place of safety, clarity, and readiness.
So let's DIVE IN>
1. Why We Resist Boundaries
We’re taught that “freedom” means no rules, no limits, no one telling me what to do. So the second someone talks about boundaries, our nervous system is like: nope, don’t fence me in.
But here’s the truth: when you’re floating around with zero edges, it doesn’t feel like freedom — it feels like chaos. It feels like free-falling with no net. And your body will always crave something to hold onto.
2. Reframe Boundaries as Safety
Look at babies — they scream until you swaddle them. Why? Because the tight little wrap signals, “You’re safe. You’re held.”
Look at kids — the moment you give them clear rules, they actually relax. Their behavior improves. Because someone drew the edges. They know where the yes is and where the no is.
Even animals know this. Colts thrive in smaller pens. They learn, they grow, they get stronger before you let them run wild.
>>Even As Adults:
And here’s the wild part — it never really leaves us.
When we’re overwhelmed, scared, or sad… what do we instinctively do? We curl up. We pull our knees into our chest. We go fetal.
Why? Because the body remembers.Because safety is in the container.Because we are wired to feel secure when there’s something holding us.
This is not weakness. This is wisdom.Your body is showing you what your soul already knows: you don’t need infinite space to heal or expand — you need a safe space.
Curling up isn’t regression — it’s a reminder. Safety first. Then expansion.
3.How to Apply This in Real Life
Here’s how this plays out:
- Money: You think “budgeting” is restriction. But actually, deciding where your money goes is you swaddling your finances. It feels safer when you’ve told your money what its job is.
- Business: Without structure, your offers feel like a messy free-fall. When you create a clear container — a 6-week program, a price point, a start and end date — your clients relax. They trust you. You trust you.
- Relationships: Boundaries with people aren’t walls to keep love out. They’re the frame that keeps you safe enough to let more love in.
So.. I will leave you with this:
You don’t need endless space. You need the right space. A clear, safe container. And once you have that, girl, you can expand into infinity.
So as we create these containers in each area of our lives — money, business, love, motherhood, whatever — remember: small spaces are nothing to be scared of.
They are not your forever. They are your for now.They are the safe cocoon that allows you to grow.
Because when you feel safe, when you feel held, you expand. You naturally take up more room.
And one day, you’ll look up and realize the container that once felt tight now feels too small… which is exactly the point.
Boundaries aren’t keeping you small.They’re holding you steady while you grow big enough to step into the next space.
You don’t rush a baby out of the swaddle — you let her grow into the space where she no longer needs it. Same with you.
XXO- Britt
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