Relationship Struggles -Time to Re-Calibrate.
10 years ago I created a husband shopping list with 40 things on it. Then I actually met the guy who had everything on my list. Like A proper soulmate. We married 9 months later. It was like Christmas every day. Until I started seeing his other side. The ambitious man became a hyper achiever. The provider became a controller. The charming barrister became... well, still a barrister (in our living room). I wanted my dream husband, not "the guy in the crowds" who judged himself for not building empires fast enough. 99% of the time I saw my soulmate. 1% of the time I saw the other guy. And that 1% was like a drop of poison. There was something i didn't know and i was determined to find out Year 1 ( nothing) Year 2 ( guess work ) Year 3 ( trial and error ) Year 4 ( i think i found the missing piece) I was the problem My controller a 5/10 activated the worst in my partner The most invisible problem i couldn't ever find The one that was constantly beating himself up for not growing fast enough. Same man. Same intentions. But which side showed up depended on which side of ME showed up. I could bring out the soulmate or the man constantly judging himself. But i could also bring out the worst in him. Which is a never ending cycle of misery. I take people through this process when they join RE-Calibrate. You can message me for details.