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Peer Pressure

Fe - Extraverted Feeling is the topic of this video.

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Greetings. This is my submission for Mastery Monday. I’m going to try to keep this below five minutes.

So the topic is extroverted feeling. I recently dealt with a case—an ENFJ who was shoplifting because everybody else around them was shoplifting.

Extroverted feeling is connected to empathy and social harmony. These people don’t like when others are upset with them. If they find out someone is mad at them, it really disturbs them. They’ll ask, “Are you mad at me?”

They don’t want anyone to be upset with them. They are very susceptible to peer pressure, people-pleasing, being a doormat, and being passive.

So if you have one of these children, you want to pay special attention to helping them not become doormats. Everyone should be mindful of peer pressure, but these types need extra attention.

Let’s break this down.

The ENFJ has extroverted feeling in the top slot. The ESFJ also has Fe in the top slot. The INFJ has it in the second slot, and the ISFJ also has it in the second slot.

This ENFJ is the focus here because they are deeply connected to connection—which also relates to intimacy.

If you have one of these four types of children, you want to consistently tell them “I love you.” Don’t assume they know. Everyone should express love to their kids, but for these children, it’s especially important.

You also want to monitor their friendships closely. These children are more prone to people-pleasing.

You’ve probably heard the saying: you become a product of the five people you spend the most time with. If they’re around five negative influences, there’s a high chance they become the sixth.

So you want to guide them toward healthy friendships.

At the same time, be careful not to hurt their feelings in a way that pushes them away. If that happens, they may begin to value their friends’ opinions more than yours.

You don’t want their friends to hold more emotional influence or reverence than you do.

Since this is about extroverted feeling, pay close attention to the extroverted types like ENFJ and ESFJ. They are highly attuned to other people’s emotions.

Compared to someone like an ENTJ, who doesn’t prioritize others’ feelings in the same way, these types care deeply. They constantly wonder, “Are you mad at me?”

They want peace. They want harmony. They don’t want conflict.

If you want me to elaborate on anything, leave a comment below and I’ll talk to you soon.

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