Everyone wants to be at the top of the mountain, but no one wants to walk through the valley. An old saying, but a true statement. In the journey of becoming and obtaining what we desire the most for ourselves… we realize it will also require the most of ourselves! For some of us that may be a career change, pursuing more education, starting a business, deciding to have children, or the biggest one: deciding to get married! The Wait .vs. The Weight of Marriage As I’ve gotten older, I feel like I’ve had an epiphany about “the wait of marriage” (the when) versus “the weight of marriage” (the work). Many of us have had our dream wedding planned since we were kids, it was glamorized and made a focal point for spiritual purposes (no shacking up, “be fruitful and multiply “ ). Although admirable, the longing and the pressures of society as well as our “biological clocks” made the waiting (for right person, for right time, etc) unbearable. Some of us have given up or have made peace with the idea of never marrying. Meanwhile there are the proud and the few who have become hyper focused into the solitude of singleness, which the bibles says “ is a gift to those who understand it” lol. With that said, I’d like to shed some light with myself and others who may be reading my perspective by saying…there is worthiness in both. I choose to believe that I am worth the wait (the time it takes to prepare myself in becoming a wife one day- the time it takes to be pursued) and I am worth the weight ( the work that it requires to show up daily in a marriage). Both require understanding yourself intimately: self love, self care, self first. Both require knowing your strengths and areas of growth. Both require communication and commitment. Both require a version of you that is willing to invest until you can ensure. We are not waiting to stand in love with someone who love us more than we love ourselves, we are waiting for someone who can love us as much as we love ourselves because the love they have for themselves compliments the love we now have for each other.

Do we make way to much to do about men's mental health to the point of handicap the manly sport of endurance? Are we focusing on requirements of men feeling before required training to overcome life challenges with endurance? Can men teach ladies to be better women? If not how are women teaching boys 2 be men? While excellent questions are a start, without actions, follow through and endurance to see achievements to the end it's still a moot point. While reading above could seem random, men reading this will see and understand what is said as well as what isn't. Thanks for the space. Chief Hughes 🤠

We love the top version. Set a goal → Achieve it.Clean. Linear. Instagram-worthy. But if we’re honest? Most of our lives look like the bottom picture. Starting. Learning. Doubting. Failing. Practicing. Feeling lost. Struggling. Getting it. Almost quitting. Trying again. Then finally… achieving it. And sometimes achieving it differently than we imagined. Can we normalize this? Because too many adults quietly think: “If it’s this messy, maybe it’s not meant for me.” But what if the mess is the path? What if doubt isn’t a stop sign — it’s a phase?What if feeling lost means you’re actually stretching? What if struggling is evidence you care? Let’s talk. Drop one goal you’re currently in the messy middle of. Not the polished version.The real version. This is The Living Room.We can tell the truth here.

Every living room has something on the wall that makes you pause. This one felt like it belonged here. Which one of these feels like luxury to you right now?

Every living room has pieces on the wall that make you pause, reflect, and feel something. This is ours. The Emotional Décor is where we share words, visuals, and thoughts that capture the heart of what we talk about here — love, communication, healing, growth, presence, and connection. These aren’t posts to scroll past. They’re posts to sit with. Let the words work on you.