Welcome. This is a space for people who are tired of trying to be good enough for everyone else. People who have spent years being thoughtful, helpful, dependable…and who are beginning to sense that something essential has been left out. Often what’s missing is not effort. It’s not discipline. It’s not even courage. It’s the quiet permission to live your own life. Many people who find their way here struggle, in one way or another, with people-pleasing. Not because they are weak. But because somewhere along the way they learned that love seemed to depend on being good, agreeable, or easy to be around. Over time, that strategy becomes an identity. You become the person others rely on. But you slowly lose touch with yourself. I call this the Goodness Trap. And beneath it, almost always, is shame —the feeling that something about you is not quite acceptable as you are. This space is devoted to something deeper than just changing behaviour. It’s about uncovering what I call the Heart Self. The part of you that is still in love with life — including yourself — in spite of everything that has happened. Not something to achieve. Something to remember. Something to uncover. If you’re here, you don’t need to perform. You don’t need to be impressive. You don’t need to have it all figured out. You’re welcome as you are. And if something in you is ready… this may be a place where your life begins to feel like your own again. A Little Bit About Me I thought I should introduce myself. For a long time, I wouldn’t have called it people-pleasing. I would have said I was thoughtful… responsible… someone who cared about others. And that was true. But underneath that, there was also a quieter pattern. A tendency to override my own needs. To avoid disappointing people. To feel responsible for how others felt. It took me a long time to see that what looked like kindness on the surfacewas sometimes rooted in something deeper. A kind of shame.A sense that being myself might not be enough.

Welcome — I’m really glad you’re here. If you feel comfortable, I’d love to invite you to introduce yourself. You don’t have to answer everything. Just share what feels right. • What drew you to this group? • In what ways do you notice people-pleasing showing up in your life? • What feels most challenging for you right now? • What are you longing for more of in your life? • If you could feel one thing more consistently, what would it be? (peace, freedom, confidence, ease, self-trust… or something else) There’s no need to present yourself in any particular way here. You’re welcome as you are.

Say 1 clear "no" this week, without justifying yourself. Then share what the experience was like for you with the community