Mar 20 • Finisher Blog
The pitfalls of people pleasing
It feels like those who are trying to get things done and failing often fall into two camps: fiercely independent and uninterested in going along to get along, and people pleasers who desperately want to keep everyone happy. We’ll follow up yesterday’s caution about being too nice with more on people pleasing.
Anticipate what your boss needs, what your peers need, and how everyone is feeling. Make their lives easier. Say yes. Some fights aren't worth having. Don't rock the boat. Most fights aren't worth having. Get along with your colleagues. Say yes again. Totally understand where they're coming from. No fight is worth having, really. Are you people-pleasing or just an affable, engaged member of the team? No wonder you got promoted.
It’s clear how this sort of attitude can hold us back. It’s hard to get things done when we’re so focused on managing how others are feeling. The weird thing is, those who are well in tune with what others are feeling and want to collaborate and make things go well are often highly productive people who excel at finding solutions that make others feel good. They build positive teams which help create positive results. But that drive to work well with others needs to be tempered with an ability to face conflict, so that deeper issues aren’t neglected in an attempt to keep the peace as much as possible.
How does people pleasing and conflict avoidance show up for you? Please tell us in the comments below. And if you’d like more support in finishing projects, find me on https://thefinisher.org/ for one on one assistance!
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