Mar 19 • Finisher Blog
Don't be so nice
A key factor in getting things done is being okay with not being liked all of the time. Many of us avoid doing things when we know we’re going to have to be firm, direct, potentially unpleasant. Heather Havrilesky has an amazing piece on the prospect of being less nice, and her newsletter yesterday tells the story behind the piece, which used her work without notice or the acknowledgements she requested. As she told the story, she explained:
"Vowing to be LESS NICE includes calling people out when they don’t honor their agreements. You don’t work as hard as you do just to give your work away, or to shrug when people who were hired to have your back don’t do so. You honor your work by standing up for your work! … Throughout your life, you have to keep learning how to tell people the truth directly. You can’t panic about sounding harsh or seeming unlikable. You need to know how to ask for what you want. And from time to time, you have to confront people when they’re careless or negligent."
This does tend to be regarded as a gendered thing, but I feel like we all struggle with speaking up when we know it will disappoint, upset, or anger others, and that can definitely stop a project in its path. How have you been less nice? Please tell us in the comments below. And if you’d like more support in finishing projects, find me on https://thefinisher.org/ for one on one assistance!
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