Why You Can't Approach Women
I’ll make a longer video about this in a few days, but for now, a quick post: Most men have a “starting problem.” Simply put: you’re not approaching. The core issue isn’t just that you’re nervous. It’s that you think you have to be good at approaching before you approach. And it goes deeper than that. For years, your brain has been fed images of guys approaching—TV shows, movies, YouTube, even watching guys like me. What you see is always the finished product, the highlights. And when your mind compares itself to that constantly, it stops you from taking action, because you don’t have any real way to replicate what you see. Here’s something important: Let’s take two guys, A and B, who want to meet women: Guy A: He doesn’t take any action.Guy B: He takes action—but he’s feminine, non-threatening, and gets friend-zoned. Guy A cannot improve. He does nothing, so there’s nothing to refine. Guy B, on the other hand, can be trained, guided, and improved. His timing, his posture, his eye contact, his strategy, his mindset, his frame—we can build all of that. We can turn him into a master. Btw, I was Guy B. I started out just approaching, being “friendly” and “non-threatening.” Over the course of two months, I killed my approach anxiety. From there, I refined my flirting, my frame, my strategy. Everything was built on a foundation of consistent action. Most of you reading this lack that foundation. If you’re not approaching consistently, there’s no base to build on. No matter what you learn, it won’t stick. If you want to start taking action today and build that foundation properly, I do one-on-one coaching calls where I take care of your biggest sticking points in dating—fix your approach, your timing, your frame—so you can start seeing results fast. 💡 One-hour call: €99. Message me here if you want in.