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Some of you need to stop running, distracting, and numbing. And I’m not saying that from a place of judgment because I’ve done it too. But let me tell you what it did… It prolonged my healing. ❤️‍🩹 Which is fine, we’re on divine time and there is no guilt in that, only awareness. Because once you’re aware, you stop repeating the pattern. Deep suffering comes from being in auto-pilot, not knowing, not having introspection and not taking action and being in RESISTANCE to our REALITY. You can’t fight with reality you’ll lose 100% of the time; but what we can do IS CREATE A NEW REALITY. Healing requires resilience. The ability to sit with your emotions instead of escaping them. What do you need to sit with? What are you running from? What comes up for you that’s uncomfortable and you quickly…distract..in work, the kids (I have to be a mom), or other areas and use it to bypass? It’s ok, I’ve been there too. And listen 👂 life isn’t linear. There were seasons, like when I lost my dad, where I was deep in the darkness. Stuck. Heavy. Even suicidal. But stillness is where transformation happens. It’s where it began to happen for me and it’s something I always return back to. Intentionally. And now I’ve trained myself to do this BEFORE crisis occurs, as a daily practice. This keeps your tools sharpened. Healing is feeling, remember this. Emotions are just energy in motion… so they need to be RELEASED! And if you don’t sit with it, it will keep showing up —in different faces —in different places —in different situations —in different cycles Ladies!!!! Before you go looking for a partner, ask yourself: 👉🏽 Am I anxious? Desperate? Searching for someone to complete me or saying things like “I’ll be happier when I find the guy, or “I’ll be soft once the provider comes?” Are you constantly wondering where he is? Or that you are running out of time? Or do you have faith knowing your husband is here already and you trust divine time? All of that energy keeps you further and further away from your husband.

Being angry is easy. Being jealous is easy. Being reactive is easy. Being resentful is easy. But they are so hard on your body and nervous system. Those emotions are automatic. They’re reflexes of the nervous system trying to protect you. Anger rises fast when a boundary feels crossed. Jealousy appears when insecurity or fear of loss is activated. None of that makes you weak. It makes you human. But the work… is choosing the other direction. The work is: • Pausing instead of reacting • Getting curious instead of defensive • Regulating your body before speaking • Taking responsibility for what the emotion is pointing to Growth isn’t about never feeling anger or jealousy. It’s about not letting those emotions drive the wheel. Because when you move in the other direction, you gain: • Clarity instead of chaos • Self-respect instead of regret • Power instead of reactivity • Emotional safety in your relationships The question isn’t “Why do I feel this?” It’s “What is this feeling asking me to look at within myself?” That’s where maturity lives. That’s where peace is built. 💭 Reflection for today: When was the last time you chose regulation over reaction, and what changed because of it?

Sometimes you have to leave people behind as you continue to upgrade. It’s important to remember we can’t force people to change they have to want to themselves. Opportunities arise for each of us to rise above, learn, grow and expand. Some people keep putting off the upgrades and wonder why their life keeps glitching. Just like the phone tells you that an update is available and you get the choice of when you want it to happen or keep ignoring it.