Mindful Mama Tip Of The Day! · The Feminine Healing Lounge🌸

Mindful Mama Tip Of The Day!

Mindful Mama Tip of the Day 🌿

The more we feel, the more we heal. Feeling = Healing!!!! ❤️‍🩹 The only way to GROW through it, is to GO through it!

Our bodies are always communicating with us. In When the Body Says No (Gabor Maté) and The Body Keeps the Score (Bessel van der Kolk), we learn that unexpressed emotions don’t disappear, they get stored in the body. Healing doesn’t come from bypassing pain, but from safely allowing ourselves to feel it.

When we model this for our children, naming emotions, allowing tears, showing self-compassion, in these precious moments we teach them emotional intelligence and safety. We show them that feelings aren’t dangerous and that regulation doesn’t come from suppression, but from presence. Suppression = depression.

Instead of distracting, avoiding, or running from discomfort, what if we celebrated the moments we notice our feelings? These are often just signals like in your vehicle saying “pay attention to _____.

Even when we “fall from grace” by let’s say, binge eating, numbing, scrolling, overworking etc. we can reframe these behaviors as the body’s heroic attempt to keep us safe and regulated. Celebrate these moments to, your body is working FOR YOU not AGAINST YOU!!!

There is no shame here. You are no longer available for shame & guilt!

We can gently reflect:

What was I needing in that moment?
What would I like to try next time?

No judgment. Just curiosity, compassion, and mental rehearsal for next time.. how can you show up differently next time? Script on this, meditate on this, mentally rehearse the preferred outcome…come up with an action plan before crisis… and the same goes for your kiddos!

If we cannot extend grace to ourselves, how can we truly offer it to our children or anyone else?

We fill our cup first, not by judging how full or empty it is…but by observing it with honesty and kindness.

Growing up, I never saw my mom cry. I was punished and shamed for crying, so allowing myself to cry as an adult has been real work. Sometimes it literally hurts to cry…I mean literal pain…because of the conditioning and generational shame stored in my body. So even now, shame or guilt can arise and I have to gently navigate through these feelings with so much self love and compassion. Giving myself permission to show up, authentically as me and loving myself unconditionally.

I comfort myself. I stay with myself.

A candle. A warm blanket. A comforting song, scripture, or book.

This is re-parenting ourselves. This is healing.

💭 What are ways you can anchor and comfort yourself in the storm?

I invite you to share below…for yourself and for other mamas reading.

Here’s 10 Gentle Ways to Comfort & Anchor Yourself

Wrap yourself in a warm blanket and take 5 slow breaths and listen to a guided meditation 🧘‍♀️
Light a candle and sit with one hand on your heart
Play a song that feels like a hug or makes you smile
Place your feet on the floor and name 5 things you can see and 5 things you are grateful for
Whisper: “This is hard, and I’m allowed to feel it”
Read a grounding passage, prayer, or affirmation
Hold a warm mug of tea and focus on the warmth and taste
Rock your body gently (yes—like you would a child) I do this a lot when feeling overwhelmed or anxious
Journal one compassionate sentence to yourself or write yourself a love letter
Cry without fixing, explaining, or rushing it away if needed, phone a friend
Write out your feelings, you can use a specific journal this is so good for a release or come in here and know you are supported!