Dec '24 (edited) • 🎵Sunday Kind of Love💛🎶
Sunday Kind of Love #3
Happy Sunday, Hubby Hacker Wifey!
Today, let’s dive into one of the most powerful tools in your Hubby Hacker Code toolkit:
SHIFT+S – Speak Strategically
Words have the power to heal or hurt, to build or break. When you choose to Speak Strategically, you’re intentionally using your words to create connection, build trust, and influence the atmosphere of your marriage.
Speaking strategically doesn’t mean being manipulative or insincere—it’s about choosing your words thoughtfully to ensure they reflect love, respect, and wisdom, even in challenging situations.
Why This Code Matters
The Bible reminds us of the power of words in Proverbs 18:21: “The tongue has the power of life and death.” Your words can either bring life into your marriage or cause damage that’s hard to undo. When you Speak Strategically, you’re building a bridge of communication that fosters peace, understanding, and intimacy.
How to Apply SHIFT+S in Real Life
1. Pause Before You Speak
Take a moment to consider your tone, timing, and message. Ask yourself:
• Is this the right time to say this?
• How can I say it in a way that builds rather than tears down?
Example: Instead of saying, “You never help around the house,” try: “I really appreciate it when you help out—it makes such a difference for me.”
2. Focus on Solutions, Not Blame
Replace accusations with collaborative language that invites your husband into the solution.
Example:
• Blaming: “You’re always late, and it’s so frustrating!”
• Strategic: “I know you’re juggling a lot. How can we work together to make sure we’re both on time?”
3. Use “I Feel” Statements
Express your emotions without attacking or assuming.
Example: Instead of saying, “You don’t care about how I feel,” try: “I feel hurt when my concerns seem dismissed. Can we talk about this?”
4. Affirm Before You Address
Begin with something positive before addressing an issue. This softens the conversation and shows you value your husband.
Example: Start with, “I love how hard you work for our family,” before discussing a challenge.
Strategic Speaking Challenge
This week, commit to practicing SHIFT+S in one conversation with your husband. Here’s how:
1. Pick a topic you’ve been meaning to discuss.
2. Plan your words thoughtfully using the tips above.
3. Approach the conversation with love, respect, and calmness.
4. Reflect afterward on how it felt to communicate strategically.
When you SHIFT+S – Speak Strategically, you’re not just managing conflicts better—you’re building a marriage where communication becomes a tool for connection and growth. So, this Sunday, let’s commit to making our words a force for good in our marriages.
What’s one way you’ll practice this code today? Share below—I’d love to hear your thoughts!
Remember - Marriage is an art… be creative, it’s a game… have fun!
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Sunday Kind of Love #3
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Hey wifey! Master the art of love and connection. Marriage is a complex & dynamic game BUT there are cheat codes—get ready to hack your hubby! 🎮
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