Hey Melany Howell 👋 Just checked out Survivors Support Group. You're still early enough to structure the community properly before growth starts kicking in — which honestly is the best possible timing. We're currently helping new Skool owners turn empty/basic communities into launch-ready ecosystems completely free. Examples + full breakdown here: 👉 Community Launch Before vs after examples below 👇

Welcome to my family/domestic violence survivors support group. I have started this group as a way to share experiences with other survivors, whether you are currently living the situation or have previously been in an abusive relationship. This group is for members of all ages, male or female or those who identify another way. It is an inclusive group and non judgmental. It’s to offer support to each other or to ask for advice or support for yourself or someone you know- I do encourage those who are here on behalf of someone else to also invite them to be part of the group- even if they don’t post, sometimes just knowing they are not alone or finding information which is useful to them helps more than you could know. Please feel free to invite others you know who may benefit from the content in this group. Please introduce yourself, share your favourite pets and anything else you like to do. I like dogs and have 2 kelpies. I like crime shows and the medieval period history. I lived in a toxic relationship for 7 to 8 years. It consisted of emotional abuse, sexual abuse, financial abuse, gaslighting, psychological abuse and physical abuse. I could tell you hundreds of stories and I’m happy to share over time. Now it’s your turn to share. What you experienced, what you learned, what you wish you knew at the beginning. What advice would you give to others? Be kind to each other but most of all feel safe.

Welcome to the new members who have joined in the last couple of weeks. Please feel free to introduce yourself or post your own story.

Hey. I'm Lauren. I'm here because I'm exhausted. My abuser is currently incarcerated temporarily. It's been a few months now. I know I did the right thing to protect myself and my daughter. I'm just so tired of looking to the future and still not understanding how this all happened. I can't yet envision my life without him. I wake up in a life that doesn't feel like mine every single day. I just want to not think about it anymore. I want to not think about all the awful things that were done, said etc. I want control back of my emotions and thoughts. Most of all, I want relief from the deep pain of this heartbreak. So I'm here in hopes of finding similar people in similar situations to learn from, build ideas from, attain hope from. That's pretty much it I guess.

What made you decide to leave? How many tries did it take before you left permanently? Statistics suggest it takes an average of 7 attempts before someone leaves an abusive relationship for good. For me, it was exactly 7. The first time, it was after about 10 months. The abuse was subtle at that stage. But I was sick of not being believed if I went to the shops to buy stuff and the item wasn’t there. I was doubted as to whether I’d even looked. I was also sick of being blamed for when things went wrong. The straw that broke the camels back was when I came home with fish and chips for dinner for everyone. I was berated for letting them put everything into a bag to carry easier. I left for a. couple of days and when I came back I started looking for somewhere else to live. I moved out without telling my ex partner and moved while he was out all day. I had my mum and my nana help me. I was in the shower later that evening when he turned up to talk. He’d gone through my phone the week before without me knowing and found out my plan and learnt where I was going. We talked in the car. I still didn’t know fully what he was at that stage so I believed him when he said he didn’t hold grudges and if I ever had a problem I should talk to him about it instead of running. I let him stay in my life when I should have cut and run. It was about 2 months later I let him move into that house with me. Crazy but as it turns out, quite a normal experience for many. Who else can relate?