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Mar 7 • General 🗣️
Savoring the Charge: From Raw Energy to Erotic Authority
(I realized that I hadn't posted this one to the community)
A fool bolts pleasure, then complains of moral indigestion. — Minna Antrim
The other day I ran into one of my nephews.
We were standing there talking and he blurts out, “Uncle James, I’m not a fighter… but sometimes I feel this energy and I just want to smash something.”
He wasn’t angry. He wasn’t out of control. He was describing a current moving through his body that didn’t yet have a place to land.
I recognized the energy immediately.
It’s the same current that shows up as cute aggression—that irrational urge to squeeze something you love because the feeling is too much to hold politely.
It’s the energy that hits when you’re out in nature and suddenly want to run, scream, leap, cartwheel—move—because stillness feels like a lie.
It’s the energy of holding someone and feeling like there’s no possible way to get close enough—like you want to sink into them, pull them into your being, entirely.
This energy—EROS—doesn’t have one expression.
It changes shape depending on context, relationship, perception, and moment. Sometimes it wants to roar. Sometimes it wants to melt. Sometimes it wants to create. Sometimes it wants stillness so deep it almost aches.
The problem isn’t the energy.
The problem is that most of us were never taught how to stay with it or what to do with it.
So we suppress it. Moralize it. Demonize it. Spiritualize it.
We discharge it unconsciously—through conflict, addiction, performance, or numbness.
And then we wonder why intimacy feels thin… why leadership feels hollow… why pleasure feels fleeting or dangerous.
What happens when, instead of dumping the charge, we learn to behold this energy—when we slow down enough to savor it, the way you’d let a dark chocolate truffle sit on your tongue?
We stop needing to get rid of it.
We let it move into the body instead of out of control.
We breathe with it. We feel how it spreads through the pelvis, the belly, the chest. We let it inform us instead of hijack us.
As Stewart Blackburn writes:
“There is no place to go with savoring, nothing to accomplish. Savoring is both the activity and the reward. It is of value all by itself. It is an act of beholding where one sees what it is and takes it in without any need to do anything about it.”
This is where Somatic Pleasure stops being an idea and becomes a practice.
And this is where Erotic Authority is born.
Erotic Authority isn’t about domination or performance. It’s the capacity to stay present with intensity—without collapsing, acting out, or checking out.
It’s what allows a man to feel the urge to strike… and instead channel that force into grounded leadership. It’s what allows desire to become devotion instead of compulsion. It’s what allows pleasure to deepen intimacy instead of fragment it.
This same energy—the one religions tried to tame, the one culture made suspicious—is the core creative force of life itself.
The energy that’s loud, bright, expansive, and can be frightening when it has no container.
The Big Bang didn’t whisper. It exploded.
And that same current is moving through you right now—asking not to be controlled, but to be met.
When we learn to savor it… when we learn to behold it… we don’t just make better lovers.
We become steadier leaders. More trustworthy partners. More generous humans.
You don’t lose control. You gain contact.
And maybe—just maybe—we remember how to build community, empathy, and peace without amputating our aliveness.
Much Love......
— James
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