Autism + Trauma: Quick Guide 🔹 Processing time → I need pauses before I answer. Silence = thinking, not ignoring. 🔹 Distance → If I pull back, it’s because I’m overloaded. It doesn’t mean I don’t care. 🔹 Shutdowns → Words may stop. Best help = calm, quiet company, no pressure. 🔹 “Should” statements → They feel like orders, which makes me freeze or panic. 🔹 What reassures me → Gentle check-ins (yes/no questions help). Reminders you’re not upset with me. Standing with me in hard places (hospital, council, etc.). 💙 Distance ≠ disinterest. 💙 Silence ≠ nothing. 💙 Shutdown ≠ the end.