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Good or Bad?

How do you know if something in your life is bad — or if it's actually good for you?

This is what we worked on at Sunday's circle.

Anya's been in a relationship for a while where she's not getting what she wants. She talks, he doesn't respond the way she needs. She withdraws. It repeats. And she genuinely doesn't know anymore — is this a dead end, or is there something here worth staying for?

Here's the thing.

When we're in 3D mode — which is most of us, most of the time — we look at a situation and label it. He's not giving me what I want → bad relationship → what do I do with it.

But the label closes the door.

What if the question isn't "is this good or bad" — but "what is this showing me about what I believe about myself?"

Because underneath Anya's situation wasn't really about him. It was a belief she'd been carrying for years: I don't deserve it. Something is wrong with me.

And without that relationship doing what it was doing — she might never have looked at it directly.

We did a short practice. Three women, three different situations.

What came back:

🔥 "What other people do doesn't change who I am."

🔥 "I am loved — and it doesn't have to come from one person."

🔥 "When I stopped waiting for someone else to fill it — everything shifted."

The situation isn't the problem. The situation is the clue.

#How to know if something is bad or good

Recording is up in the classroom 👆

Watch it when you have 30 quiet minutes (2X speed). Bring something specific that's been on your mind. It works better that way.

What's your "is this a bad apple or gold" situation right now?

Drop it below 👇