When raising children, God gives us a duty to heal from things that hurt us as kids so that we don't pass that hurt on. Sometimes it still happens and there's not much besides healing that we can do. It's usually our first born that goes through that healing journey with us. It's then do we get to see transformation in real time. Never stop tying up those loose ends. The enemy wants us to just give up and leave it for the next generation to deal with. That's not what God wants from us. He wants for us to be happy joyous and free.