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đ Relationship Rule: Hire SLOW, Fire FAST
Gentlemen, if it works in business, it works in relationships. In the corporate world, vetting for an important role takes monthsâmultiple interviews, assessments, and stakeholders. If one thing is off, the process stops. This is "Hiring Slow and Firing Fast."
Here is how to apply this to your dating life to avoid emotional burnout and toxic situations:
đ˘ 1. Hire SLOW: The Art of Vetting
Most people you meet will not be a good fit. Defaulting to rejection is statistically the safer bet.
Don't Rush Intimacy: Avoid becoming emotionally involved before youâve vetted her character. If you rush, you're relying on "sheer dumb luck" that sheâs virtuous.
The "Lollipop" Principle: You can always escalate contact, but you canât de-escalate without drama. If you start with daily texting, she expects it forever. Start slow to give yourself an "escape route."
Maintain Your Life: Even if you don't have something better to do, act like you do. A mature man has responsibilities and interests that come before a stranger.
⥠2. Fire FAST: Guard Your Peace
The moment a red flag appearsâtoxic traits, disrespect, or aggressionâyou must stop investing emotionally.
Don't Rationalize: Most men who end up in dysfunctional relationships saw the red flags early but ignored them because the woman was attractive or the physical connection was strong.
Silo or Disengage: If she isn't relationship material, either walk away entirely or move her into a casual category while keeping a tight rein on your heart.
đ ď¸ 3. The Secret Weapon: Optionality
How do you actually find the strength to fire fast? A large applicant pool. * Companies interview even when they don't have an opening to avoid desperation. Men must do the same.
Optionality allows you to act with dignity. It ensures you never have to choose between being alone and being disrespected.
Summary: Slow down the "hiring" process to protect your emotional needs, and be ruthless with the "firing" process when true colors show.
What do you think? Have you ever "hired" too fast and regretted it later? Letâs discuss below! đ
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