Self-holding, is the capacity to stay with yourself when discomfort would normally make you abandon yourself. It is being able to feel disappointment, uncertainty, urgency, fear, embarrassment, or frustration without immediately fixing, fleeing, overworking, people-pleasing, shutting down, or making the feeling mean something has gone wrong. Where am I waiting to feel differently before I allow myself to move differently? What would it look like to hold myself through the discomfort instead of making the discomfort the decision-maker?