Hey! I’m really excited about this week’s call because we’re diving into one of the biggest mindset shifts I’ve had in years. I realized I’ve been trying to squeeze life out of progress—believing that if I just made enough money, paid off enough debt, solved enough problems, or got enough done, then I’d finally be free to enjoy life. But progress and life are not the same category. Progress builds a better future; it was never meant to satisfy your heart. On today’s call, we’ll unpack the difference between maintenance, progress, recovery, connection, and aliveness, and why so many men unknowingly starve their hearts while becoming more productive. This one lesson has changed the way I think about work, marriage, recovery, and even pornography. If you’ve ever felt like you’re getting things done but still feel empty inside, I think this conversation is going to give you language and practical tools that could genuinely change the way you live.

Hey guys, again so sorry but today got overloaded and we also have our first ultrasound to find out the sex of our baby in just a couple hours so I’m going to have to forgo this weeks call as well. I was hoping to be able to make it happen today but I can’t. Instead of just flat out canceling the call today and sending a video, I’ll pivot and we’ll do a call tomorrow @ 2pm for whoever can make it, (you’ll see that reflected on the calendar) and if not I’ll send you the teaching clip after I’m done. Love y’all, would love any updates on how you’re doing!

Hey dudes, for the sake of simplicity, building a community and fun, I have started our community chat! This will be a great place for resources, for you to help each other, to communicate with us all throughout the week, to make community, stoked for this!! Feel free to post in it, but please do a few things for me- - BIG ONE- If you're posting about having an urge, don't just ask for prayer, that's great, but take ownership of it and include in your post an explanation of what you're really wanting deep down- I want you to do the work to discover what's going and and then either also include what you're going to do instead, or ask for ideas. This prevents lazy "I need help" posts that make you feel better without doing anything that actually helps you. If you're posting for help, you've got to earn that request by at least doing your part. - Encourage your bros. - Don't argue about theology, genuine discussion and questions are great, but splitting hairs with a keyboard warrior is never helpful. - NO PORN. Don't care, you'll get kicked out for that on the spot no questions asked. - If there's ever drama between any of yall, keep it out of the group or l'll be deleting it pronto. No Drama zone ok. - If you're posting about an urge, don't be too descriptive with your wording about what you're fantasizing about. Here's the link! Let's make this legendary!! https://groupme.com/join_group/107559978/eCCVYLDf

Guys! I’ve had a bit of an epiphany this last week and I’m excited to share it with you this week! It includes this diagram/map I’ve created. I’ll probably be recording as I explain this session so I can put it in the course, but the main idea is that very often when there’s an urge, it’s not always a trigger, pain or something you want to escape, often it’s actually that we want to have more engagement and participation with life itself, with others, with God, etc. Your heart is craving more than it’s currently experiencing and that won’t be helped so much by trying to become more content with less, or just seeking to understand what lies you’re believing, you need to learn the skill of participation in life, in procuring your desired experiences or values in a healthy way. So, I’ve made this 4 part map to help guide you into action from desire. I’ll go over it, but here’s the map- love y’all! You are righteous in Christ no matter what this week has been like for you, live like the most loved man on earth, because we all are!

Guys! I created our very own GPT for dealing with urges, shame, hurts and everything in between. Ask it why you're feeling an urge and it will lead you through a process. Ask it how to deal with shame, ask it what to do with the urge you have at the moment, ask away and it'll help you a ton! Think of it like reflective journaling. Still, obviously talking to me or another brother will always be better, but this will help in a pinch! https://chatgpt.com/g/g-6a1dfff108b08191a63378b3397e08b4-renegade-rescuer