Nov 12 • General discussion
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🌷 Motherhood & Mum Guilt — A Sacred Moment
For the mamas who love deeply, worry often, and try their absolute best — this one’s for you.
Those little hands.The ones that reach for you without hesitation — soft, sometimes sticky, always trusting — that’s the purest kind of love you’ll ever know.
They don’t notice the laundry you haven’t folded, the dishes in the sink, or the five tabs open on your phone for “healthy snacks” and “how to be more patient.”
They don’t see the mental load or the endless checklist circling in your head — the reminders, the silent pressure to hold it all together.
They just see you.And they love you. Completely whole.
Not for the perfect meal, not for the spotless house, not for the photo-worthy moments — but for you.
For your laugh (they love this one).Your scent (pure comfort).Your presence (connection).
The way you make the world feel safe, even when you’re running on coffee and survival mode.
🌿 The Reality of Motherhood
It stretches you in ways you didn’t know were possible — emotionally, physically, spiritually.
One minute you’re overflowing with love, and the next, you’re hiding in the bathroom just trying to breathe. I get it because me too!
And that’s okay. You’re not doing it wrong — you’re just doing something real and raw.
💭 Let’s Talk About Mum Guilt
That quiet, sneaky feeling that shows up so uninvited — whispering that you’re not doing enough, not being enough, not feeling enough.
(It’s not true, but it feels so heavy.)
It’s the voice that questions everything:“Should I have played with them longer?”“Was I too impatient?” (gets me every time)“Am I ruining them with screen time?” ( really over Roblox rn!)
Sound familiar? Yeah. Same.
It shows up because you care. Because you love them so deeply (oxytocin, remember this). Because you want to give everything to your little beings.
But guilt doesn’t define you — love does.
Your child doesn’t see your guilt.They see your presence. (pause and be present)They see your love. They see home — as a feeling, not a place.
🕊️ The Truth About “Enough”
You don’t have to do it all.You don’t have to have it all figured out.You don’t even have to feel grateful every moment (some days, just showing up is enough).
Being enough doesn’t come from doing more — it comes from being present.
Slow down.Breathe them in.Forgive yourself for the moments you lose your patience.
Motherhood isn’t about perfection — it’s about connection.
🌷 A Sacred Moment — Seeing Myself Through Her Eyes
Lately, I’ve been feeling a little disconnected from my eldest.It happens sometimes — totally normal — it’s the body’s way of signalling it’s time to reconnect within yourself.
Life moves fast, and the tiny everyday things start to quietly pull you apart without meaning to.
The other night, we were sitting together scrolling through Pinterest.I stopped on a piece of art — I’m big on how colour makes you feel love art.
My daughter leaned over and said,
“Wow, Mum, that’s so nice. Art’s my favourite at school.”
My eyes lit up — that moment of realisation that we have more in common than I thought.
I said,
“You can just feel it, can’t you?”
We both paused… looked at each other… and at the exact same time with big eyes and said,
“YEAHHHH!”
— like we completely understood each other inside and out. Time stood still for a second.
It was small, but it was everything —a pure moment of connection that I had been craving.A reminder that even when we drift a little, love always finds its way back.
A few nights later, another sacred little moment found me — this time with my youngest, who’s five.
He looked up at me with the most innocent eyes and said,
“Mum, I love when you laugh. You’re so pretty when you laugh.”
Everything stopped.The noise.The mental lists.The guilt.Gone.
Because through their eyes, I wasn’t the tired, overthinking mum trying to hold it all together.I was just me.
The version they see — raw, warm, funny, safe, and loved exactly as I am.
That night, something shifted.
I realised that our children don’t need the perfect version of us —the one with the spotless house, the endless patience, the right words every time.
They need the authentic one.
The one who feels deeply, laughs loudly, apologises softly, hugs tightly, and shows up — even when it’s messy.
That’s the mum they see.That’s the woman I’m learning to see too.
🌸 Gentle Reminders, Mama
You can be grateful and overwhelmed.You can yell, apologise, and still be a good mum.You can rest — guilt-free. Rest is regulation.(Check out my Nervous System Explained blog for tips on calm and grounding.)
You can ask for help.You’re not meant to do this alone.And if you are doing it alone right now — super mum — I see you. You are not invisible.
🤍 You’re Blooming, Mama
Motherhood isn’t a test — it’s a transformation.And oh, what a transformation it is.
It’s okay if some days feel too heavy — growth is heavy.
They’ll grow. They’ll reach for others one day.But the way they learned to love, to trust, to feel safe — that starts with you.
You’re blooming, mama — right on time. 🌿
Z.HWriter | Motherhood | Healing | Soulful Living
✨ Let’s ConnectWhat helps you release mum guilt or reconnect with yourself on the tough days?Have you had a sacred moment like this with your little one lately?Share your thoughts in the comments — I’d love to hear your stories and reflections. 💬
And the greatest man to ever live once said -
HEAVEN LAYS AT THE FEET OF THE MOTHER.
(Prophet Muhammed PBUH an Nasa'i 3104)
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