“I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain”
- Quote From Dune by Frank Hebert
Understanding that fear is an emotion—a mere projection of the mind and a primal survival mechanism—is crucial. Conquering this fear mechanism is essential as it enables the pursuit of goals without hesitation, transforming you into someone incredibly resilient.
The first step in overcoming your fears is to acknowledge them.
Consider the fear of embarrassment or rejection. Beyond mental discomfort, these situations pose no real harm. The aversion to these outcomes stems solely from the mind's interpretation of them as negative. Recognizing this irrationality is key. Without their emotional impact, embarrassment and rejection hold no significance.
Consequently, it's important to dismiss the negative emotions tied to embarrassment and rejection. For example, if you approach someone to ask them out in a public setting and they reject you, you have the power to choose not to feel hurt. Rejection doesn't inherently cause pain; it's merely the mind suggesting that response.
The core message here is to become aware of the subconscious cues your mind gives you on how to react to different scenarios, and to challenge these impulses consciously. Question yourself: Why should I feel embarrassed about falling in public? Why should rejection from a stranger affect my happiness? Why should someone else's anger induce fear in me? How does fear serve me in any confrontation? By recognizing the baselessness of these fears and negative emotions, you gain the ability to reject them.
Think about what you could of achieved in your life if fear did not exist. You could become someone greater and happier if you let go of unnecessary fear.
Fear is the mind-killer and the slaughter of your dreams.