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How can you tell you are in a flow state?

we often think helping someone means offering advice, finding solutions or telling them what they should do. someone shares a problem, and before they’ve finished speaking, we’re already working out how to fix it. but sometimes, our need to help has more to do with our own discomfort than what the other person actually needs. to truly be present for someone else, we first need to create space in our own lives. when we’re constantly busy, overwhelmed or disconnected from our own needs, other people’s problems can become another weight we carry. we leave conversations feeling drained, worry about their decisions, or feel responsible for making things better. practising the pause creates another possibility. when we make room to slow down and notice our own reactions, we become less compelled to fix, advise or take responsibility for someone else’s experience. we can listen without comparing their situation to our own. we can resist the urge to tell them what worked for us or what we think they should do. we can allow them to work through their experience without needing to direct the outcome. this doesn’t mean we care less. it means we can care without losing ourselves in the process. the pause gives us the space to recognize when we’re responding to someone else’s needs and when we’re simply reacting to our own discomfort. the next time someone comes to you with a problem, try asking, do you want me to listen, or would you like help finding a solution? then give them the room to answer. you might discover that they don’t need your advice. they need the freedom to hear themselves think, to feel what they’re feeling and to arrive at their own understanding. and remember, you don’t have to be available all the time. protecting your own capacity is part of being able to show up meaningfully for others. the pause isn’t about withdrawing from people. it’s about creating enough space within ourselves to meet them without projecting our experiences, imposing our opinions or taking on what isn’t ours to carry.

There is something about beautiful places that automatically make me pause. Where do you like to practice the pause?

The Encyclopedia of Ailments and Diseases - Les Éditions ATMA Internationales In case, anyone wants to pursue the topic. The book is a complete look at your system and why pain may be manifesting somewhere in your body directly related to your emotions. Emotions are the first clue to understanding the physical manifestation in our bodies largely known as DIS-ease.