One moment I snapped this week was talking with my mom and got short with her after she asked a question that was a little obvious for the answer. Here’s how I handled it when it happened today when she asked what I would do with clients I currently have in Reno when I move. I gave myself a second to respond and think about it then answered back in a calm more thought out way of saying it’s not very feasible to come back to Reno 7 hours and take care of past customers vehicles. Rather than just snapping back like the other day.

I feel like I've really gotten better at this over the past few weeks. My wife's rejection doesn't affect me nearly as much as it used to. The chaos our kids can cause at times does not rattle me like it used to. I did try hard mode and asked my wife where she has seen or felt you crack, react or disassociate. She told me she can't remember anywhere where I hadn't maintained my composure for quite some time, other than the kids told her that I got upset when she went shopping for a half a day with friends, and our kids wanted to constantly text her throughout the day (we have an extra cell phone we use as "house phone" in case we have to make quick errands and leave kids at home for 10-20 minutes). Anyway anytime my wife leaves, my daughter who is extremely clingy with my wife tries to hoard the phone and constantly texts my wife. I simply told her this time that she could have access to the phone, but I didn't think it was necessary to constantly text my wife. After my wife told me this, I told her we should think about the whole texting thing, figure out some guidelines and talk as a family so we're all on the same page going forward.

Gents as you’ve probably seen on the calendar a few of our calls fall on Christmas/Christmas Eve and New Year’s Eve/day. So for those 2 weeks there will only be 1 call - the Monday call. Monday 22nd - ON Tuesday 23rd - OFF Wednesday 24th - OFF Monday 29th- ON Tuesday 30th - OFF Wednesday 31st - OFF All other calls leading up to and after these 2 weeks will be as normal. If you need any extra support during this time use this community, reach out and let’s keep the momentum high ✊🏾🔥

Well cold showers are definitely something. How long do you strive to stay in the shower to “master this”? Also my wife and I hardly ever fight, I fact I can’t even really remember the last time we fought, so I switched the conflict module to with my kids. Of course it didn’t take very long for them to get in an argument. Nevertheless, “Stop, let’s take a break to calm down and take a few minutes to breathe” sounds a lot better when I said it sternly, but slow and calm, vs how I always used to say it which was basically yelling over my kids so they would listen to me. Calm, cool, controlled composure does go along way.

One of the big and exciting updates coming in the lead up to christmas.. This week, I’m rolling out something that’s going to change the way you track your growth in this container. No more “I think I’m improving.” No more guessing. No more hoping things are shifting at home. You’re getting the Grounded Man Score System. Every Sunday, you’ll get a simple check-in email — a 2-5 minute check in that measures the four areas that actually determine who you’re becoming: - Calm leadership under pressure - Breaking Nice Guy patterns - Marriage & connection - Behaviour and discipline Your answers generate a score for each area and a total “Grounded Man Score” This is direct feedback for the man you’re becoming. It gives you three things: 1. Radical accountability — you can’t hide from the numbers. 2. Precision coaching — I see exactly where you’re drifting or rising. 3. Gamification — you’re literally levelling up in real time. But before any of that happens… This week you’ll receive an email to set your baseline. Your baseline matters. It’s the raw, honest snapshot of where you actually are today — not the version you present to the world, not the version you hope is true. Some of you will be proud. Some of you will be confronted. Good. Both are fuel. From this point forward, your growth isn’t a vibe — it’s measurable. Your leadership. Your presence. Your patterns. All trackable. All improving — if you do the work. So when that email hits your inbox this week, take a few minutes and complete it HONESTLY. This is where you stop guessing… and start becoming the man you know you’re capable of being.