https://medium.com/@willfoam/3-questions-to-ask-when-you-tour-a-care-home-for-the-first-time-96fbb8328432

Added Questions and Answers in OST Skool.

1. They did it for us first 2. Dignity is a gift only family can give 3. Regret outlasts inconvenience 4. Our kids are watching how we love 5. Presence heals what medicine can’t 6. One day, it’s the last day

Ask most adult children what hospice means, and you'll hear some version of “the end.” That's not quite right, and the gap between what families assume and what hospice actually offers costs them months of support they never used. Misconception one: hospice means days are left, not months. In truth, hospice care begins when a doctor believes a loved one has six months or less to live if an illness runs its natural course — not six days. Families who wait until the final week miss out on care they were entitled to from day one. Misconception two: hospice is a place you go. It isn't. Hospice is a philosophy of care that comes to wherever your parent already lives whether it’s their own bedroom, an assisted living facility, a care home here on Oʻahu. No one must be uprooted to receive it. The team consists of a doctor, nurse, aide, chaplain, and social worker, who comes to them. Misconception three is the one family’s feel longest: hospice doesn't stop caring for the family once the patient passes. Bereavement support continues for up to thirteen months after a death, covering the adult children left settling the estate, the siblings renegotiating old roles, the spouse learning to live alone. I see this side of hospice work every week, and it's rarely mentioned before it's needed. Hospice isn't surrender, and it isn't a countdown clock. It's a resource most families discover too late, and after the hardest weeks have already passed without it. The earlier you understand what hospice offers, the more of it your family gets to use: comfort, dignity, and support that outlasts the diagnosis itself.

Aloha everyone, I'm Joseph - Grief Counselor & Death Doula. I'm thrilled that Richard is creating this community. I look forward to learning!