What is Humility to you, looking for perspective? 🫠

I’m going through a deep process right now with my relationship to humility, and this comes with some fear of judgment sharing obviously.. BUT our top value in this community is honesty and truth, and I’m willing to kill any identity in your eyes of me being a certain way so that I can actually actualize my potential. Those of you who have been with me over the last year I’m very curious on how you would define humility and what humility looks like for you in your life. As well as if you have any reflections for me, feel free to share them in private.

I’ve realize recently that I’ve never had a real grounded definition or understanding of what humility is. It’s always had a very skewed definition in my mind, even though it’s been a virtue I’ve seen it as lowering yourself below someone almost like apathy and lack of belief or confidence in itself, but I’m realizing that that is not the case.

But really developing a healthy relationship with this virtue has become my number one priority so your perspective would be deeply appreciated. Below is some very interesting insights that I’ve come across so far about humility.

From a little digging this really landed ( from our friend GPT)

1. What humility really is (and what it is not)

Humility is not thinking less of yourself.

Humility is thinking of yourself accurately.

Real humility is:

Seeing your gifts without inflation

Seeing your flaws without self-hatred

Knowing you are formed by forces you did not author

Acting from truth without needing it to be witnessed or validated

At its core, humility is right-sized selfhood.

Entitlement says: “My presence alone should earn trust, goodwill, forgiveness, or loyalty.”

Humility says: “Trust is built. Gratitude is shown over time. Integrity is demonstrated, not declared.”

Here’s the hard line most people miss, Humility is behavioral before it is emotional.

But humility has two halves:

Internal humility

Gratitude
Remembrance
Awareness of dependence
Reverence for life, death, lineage, grace

External humility

Consistency
Follow-through
Repair
Letting others update their trust in you slowly

I realize in my life, I deeply value being understood and use my charisma and language to avoid being condemned or misunderstood, and that has prevented me from really sitting deeply with reflections. Not all the time, but definitely often. As all truths are paradoxical, humility is no exception. Now the integration that’s happening is how do I hold humility knowing that I know nothing and have confidence in myself, lack of self hatred, and a willingness to go on and still maintain loving relationships in spite of being conflicts and misunderstandings without obsessively fixating on trying to bring them to resolution, which was my perspective of relentless truth seeking.

This final quote was really heavy for me.

“If this person never forgives, never understands, never sees my heart can I still living aligned?” That’s humility.

I would deeply appreciate your reflections on this if you’ve read this thank you and hopefully I’ll see you soon on a call :)

Peace and Love,

Justice ❤️‍🔥

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