Introduction: Healing Trauma and Fear of Manifestation
Hey, my name is Kaity and I'm from the east coast of Canada. For me, unstuck means that I am no longer living out of the false beliefs my trauma stories taught me, but learning how to feel safe enough to DO as well as DREAM. :) I am excited this community exists, because... 1) ...my best bud is super into manifesting atm, and David's book gave me such a clear explanation of it! 2) ...I am a holistic wellness coach, looking for support with the mindset and business side of things! 3) ...I am interested in connecting here, because I love the way David has set the tone with his own vulnerability and his acknowledgement of the impact trauma can leave on us! He wrote about "fog" inside ourselves, which I identified with because it is also an acronym for "Fear, Obligation and Guilt," used to explain the affect domestic abuse can have on us mentally. Let's just say I've been there. The past several months, I have been thick in the throes of grief due to the end of my marriage, and then losing my dear mother to cancer So when I read Lissa Rankin's recent articles about Spiritual Bypassing, I couldn't exactly relate. I do feel my grief, and had to get in touch with it at an early age as there was a grieving process that came with healing my chronic illness, too. But maybe anger is an emotion I struggle more with feeling, especially has it has been taken out on me in ways that were abusive by others. I related SO MUCH to Lissa's shift, when she said she was learning how to be kind to HERSELF as well as showing love and forgiveness to those who have hurt her and behaved abusively. Same. I have been working very hard to listen to myself (my coach is trained in Internal Family Systems), to learn my needs, to set boundaries, to identify red flags and safe people, and yet still when I start to shift into "manifestation mode," although it feels super good to be in a "flowing" and trusting and peaceful emotional state, I can find it a bit scary if I am being honest! Like the good feelings are good, but then the good things happening as fast as I can think them feels too good to be true?