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It Hits Different
Suicide just hits different. My brother, Michael, took his life on November 8, 2024. One of the many things I wasn’t prepared for in terms of him taking his life was how many people said something like “why didn’t he get help”, or, they reference the Suicide Hotline, or say “how do they not know they were loved and cared for?” Things like that. I understand there is a lot of stigma surrounding suicide. I also understand that people are well intentioned when they say these things. But honestly, how would anyone know if anyone called the hotline, or was seeing a therapist or seeking help in other ways? It is very possible that people DO seek help and their brain still can’t see a way out. It’s not like the hotline calls you up and says “hey, your bro called 6 times, sorry we couldn’t help”. It always feels like shaming to me. I always find grace for these remarks and back out of those conversations in a quiet way. But I’m silently angry about it when I hear them. And it makes me not want to be honest about how he died. Which in turn feels a bit shameful and also just adds to the stigma. Getting around the stigma of suicide is a real challenge. Anyone else’s feel this way?
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It Hits Different
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