Yesterday I spent part of my day training no-gi Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu. I got in about four rounds of what we call randori, or live training. Everybody I trained with was younger than me. At 65 years old, I can pretty much count on that these days, which makes me laugh. Now, because most of you here in the Living Strong community are not martial artists, let me set the stage a little. Each round lasts six minutes. For those six minutes, two people are grappling and wrestling with each other while looking for opportunities to control the other person's body. We move through different positions, looking for ways to control an arm or a leg or apply a choke. If an arm lock or leg lock were taken too far, something could get injured. If a choke were held too long, someone could go unconscious. Obviously, we're not there to do either of those things. That's where something called the “tap” becomes important. If your partner catches you in a position where you know the technique is there, you physically tap them with your hand or your foot, whatever is available. If you can't do that, you say the word “tap.” It is a very simple form of communication that means: Stop. Release me. And you release. Immediately. So when you watch Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, it can look like two people rolling around trying to choke each other and bend each other's arms and legs in directions they probably shouldn't go. And, well, that's partly what we're doing. But underneath all of that is something much more interesting to me: awareness, communication, trust, control, and the responsibility to take care of the human being you're training with. One of my training partners yesterday was probably around 6'2", at least 200 pounds, and extremely strong. Before we started, I told him what I was working on. I wasn't interested in seeing who could overpower whom or how many times I could get him to tap. I wanted to flow and connect. I wanted to move from one position to another, pay attention to the transitions, and recognize opportunities for arm bars and chokes as they appeared. If I arrived at one of those positions, I wasn't concerned with finishing it. I wanted to recognize that I had gotten there and continue moving.