29d • Love Life Blog
Actions Speak Louder Than Words
Most people in the dating world crave that chemistry, the spark, the butterflies, the flirtation, the witty banter… But all of that chemistry, of course is very exciting, but if you’re looking for something more serious and you’re looking for something more long-term and you’re dating within intention, what you need to be screening for from the very beginning, is someone showing signs that they’re willing to actually build something long-term.
Watch their behaviour, not just their words because a someone looking to build something long-term does three things consistently: they convert conversation into plans, they ask you real questions and follow through on what they learn about you for example; if you say you love Terry’s chocolate orange, on your next date, they will probably bring you a Terrys chocolate orange. Basically, they create next steps without you needing to prompt them.that’s it. It’s not complicated.it’s worth holding out for, as long as you don’t confuse chemistry for connection.
So, if someone is texting every day but not actually making any plans, making and breaking plans last minute, take it at face value. They enjoy access to you, but not responsibility for you.those are too very different things and very telling.
The fastest way to get clear on their intentions, is to close the access. You don’t need to do it harshly. Just one clean and clear message is enough.
You could say “I enjoy talking with you and I’m looking to build something real. If you want to grab a coffee this week, I’m in. If now isn’t the right time for that, I’m going to bow out. No hard feelings”.
Then let their actions answer the question so you don’t have to keep guessing and wondering how they really feel, because their behaviour is always the truth.
Remember… Actions speak louder than words!
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Actions Speak Louder Than Words
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