@Natt Louise

@Annemarie Wilson Hey lovely. I’m really sorry to hear you’re going through this. It sounds like a lot. You’re balancing your children, your life, your work, and a long-distance relationship that naturally asks for more time and energy. Anyone in that position would feel stretched. And when all of that effort still feels like it’s not enough, it’s understandable that it starts to feel draining. There’s two layers here. One is the practical side around distance and schedules. The other is the emotional dynamic, where effort and understanding don’t feel equally met. Long distance relationships can absolutely work, but it usually needs shared expectations, a realistic rhythm and routine, and mutual commitment. It becomes difficult when one person is consistently stretching beyond their limits while the other continues to need more. Love isn’t meant to feel like constant sacrifice. It should feel supportive on both sides. You’ve probably heard me say this a million times in my life TikTok readings, but it's so important to come back to this: how does this relationship actually make you feel? Not just how much you care or how much you’re giving, but how you feel within it. Because That matters. Rather than trying to prove you’re doing enough, it may help to define what “enough” looks like for you in your real, everyday life and what you can give consistently without burning out. From there, communicate that calmly and clearly. You’re not defending yourself, you’re setting boundaries and creating negotiables and non negotiables which helps you both understand what you will and what you will not allow and tolerate in this dynamic. Then allow space for his response. If there’s understanding and a willingness to meet you there, that’s something to build on. If there’s continued pressure or guilt, that’s important information too. At that point, it’s less about the distance and more about alignment and reciprocity. Time with your children isn’t taking anything away from the relationship. It's a core part of your life. The right partner will respect that.