Why a Mortgage May Be Controlling Your Life (Even If It Looks Like Good Debt)
For years, we’ve been taught that a mortgage is “good debt.” But is it really? I want to share why I believe a mortgage might not be as beneficial as most people think—and how it can quietly take over your life. When you buy a home you can’t pay cash for, you rely on a lender. On paper, it seems simple: the lender gives you money, you pay it back over time. But the reality is deeper. When you sign that mortgage, you’re essentially promising 25–40% of your working hours for the next 30 years. You’ve committed a large portion of your future labor to someone else. That’s the hard truth: the borrower is a servant to the lender. No matter how much you earn or how “good” the debt seems, your freedom is partially tied to the lender’s rules. I know this personally. I once had $4.5 million in debt and $7 million in assets. On paper, it looked great—but that debt controlled me. It kept me up at night. It affected my generosity, my health, even my marriage. Every decision became about how to pay off debt instead of how to live freely. It wasn’t until I reflected on Proverbs 22:7—"The rich rule over the poor, and the borrower is servant to the lender"—that I realized something profound. No servant can serve two masters, and in that season, I was serving my debt instead of living freely. Since then, I’ve committed to using debt strategically and short-term, always paying it off quickly. My goal is to avoid being under the weight of someone else’s control so I can focus on what really matters: freedom, generosity, and purpose. The takeaway? A mortgage can seem like “good debt,” but it comes at a cost—your time, your freedom, and your peace of mind. Before you sign on the dotted line, consider: is the house controlling your life, or are you controlling your house? Share your thoughts below.