Most people say theyâre afraid of failure.
Thatâs not quite true.
What weâre usually afraid of is:
- Losing an identity that once kept us safe
- Letting go of a version of ourselves that âworkedâ in the past
- Admitting that the next chapter requires us to be a beginner again
Starting anew isnât scary because itâs unknown.
Itâs scary because it asks us to update who we think we are.
Change quietly confronts us with questions we donât rush to answer:
- If I stop doing what Iâve always done⊠who am I then?
- What if growth costs me familiarity, approval, or comfort?
- What if the old version of me canât come with me?
Hereâs the uncomfortable truth (said with kindness):
Fear doesnât mean youâre off track.
It often means youâre standing at the edge of something honest.
Growth isnât loud. Itâs disorienting.
It feels like grief before it feels like freedom.
Take a momentâno overthinking.
- What version of yourself are you afraid to let go of right now?
- What are you hoping will change⊠but havenât said out loud yet?
- If fear wasnât the boss, what would your next step actually be?
You donât need to fix anything today.
Insight comes before action.
Drop a thought belowâor sit with it quietly.
Both count.
(And yesâstarting again is brave. Even when it doesnât feel heroic.)