Most of us spend so much time in our heads.
We are constantly analyzing, replaying, planning or worrying.
We treat our minds like the CEO of our lives, the one with all the answers, the one that needs to figure everything out before we can move forward.
But here is what I have been learning lately in my own life and not just in my work:
The mind is loud. But the body is wise.
I have recently started doing something small. When I feel that familiar feeling in my stomach; that flutter, that tightness that we feel sometimes.
I pause and I ask myself: is this excitement or is this stress?
It sounds simple. But that one question has changed so much for me.
Because I realized I had been labeling almost everything as excitement and enthusiasm.
But I realized that the nervousness before something new, the feeling before a hard conversation, the sensation before taking a leap was not always excitement and enthusiasm.
Sometimes it was stress that my body was trying to make me aware of.
But sometimes it was excitement and enthusiasm too. Sometimes it was my body saying: this matters to you. Pay attention.
I just had never slowed down long enough to tell the difference.
And I think a lot of us are living like that. Moving so fast that we stop hearing what is actually being communicated from within.
Your nervous system is one of the most intelligent systems you have. It holds memories your mind has long forgotten. It carries emotions you never had space to feel. It knows when something is off or something is right long before your conscious mind catches up.
The problem is most of us were never taught to listen to it.
We were taught to push through, to stay busy and not feel. To think our way out of how we feel.
So the body speaks louder. It gives you more tension, more anxiety, more exhaustion and you feel more disconnected.
Until you slow down enough to actually hear it.
This week's practice: The One Question Check-In
Once a day; morning, evening or whenever you feel something in your body just pause and ask:
Is this excitement or stress? Is this a yes or a no? Is this fear or is this truth?
Place one hand on your heart. Take three slow breaths. Then just listen.
And just notice.
That is it. That is where it starts.
Drop a 🤍 in the comments if this resonates. And if something comes up for you this week I would love to hear what your body has been trying to say.
Much love, Neda