I was standing in line at Whole Foods last week, running through my to-do list in my head and I noticed I was holding my breath for no reason. I just stopped breathing for a moment.
There was nothing wrong, no emergency, no conversation or meeting to prepare for.
Just... a body that had forgotten how to fully exhale...
Here's the thing I keep coming back to.
Your neural system doesn't know the difference between a real threat and a thought about a threat. It just responds!
Cortisol and adrenaline flood your system, your heart rate picks up, your muscles get ready to act and your digestion basically pauses because none of that matters if you're "in danger."
Same signal to your whole body that something isn't safe.
Which means most of us are walking around kind of on edge all day, over things that aren't even happening.
This is why I built the framework I teach in this platform: Regulate - Meditate - Elevate.
Regulate: comes first because you can't think your way out of a dysregulated body. You have to speak to it directly. Like take a few slow exhales, a hand on your chest, feeling your feet actually touching the floor. Small, physical and immediate.
Meditate: is where you start listening. Once the body settles, you can finally hear what's underneath the noise. Your “real” fears starts to come up. The real desires are making themselves known.
Elevate: is what becomes possible from there. Your new choices and patterns. A version of you that isn't holding your breath in the Whole Foods line.
I invite you to try this today and for the rest of the week: notice one moment where your breath is shallow or held for something that isn't actually happening. Just notice without judgement. That awareness alone starts the shift.
What does your body do when it's dysregulated? Do you stop breathing, pulling your shoulders towards your ears or does your stomach feel like it just got punched?
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Much love, Neda