Can I ask you something a little different? 🤍

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4h (edited) • 🏫Great Hall (Chats+Intros✋🏻)

This isn’t directly tied to what we’re currently working through in the Academy, but it’s something that’s been on my mind lately...

I’ve had a lot of personal experience navigating grief. I've been around a lot of death in my life by the age of 32 (I'm 36 now), including losing some very important people; my grandmother (the only present grandparent I ever had), my favourite aunt... my mom and my dad… and I've learned to develop a resilience to this, not just in the emotional sense, not by shoving it down and ignoring it (this causes health problems), but in learning how connection changes after someone passes. It becomes something that deepens your relationship with a loved even after they're gone. Even if some time has passed.

Over time, I’ve learned from my grief and have come to understand it in a way that actually brings me a lot of peace, reassurance, and closeness to my loved ones even if there was trauma or toxicity within the relationship. Not in a “chasing signs” or needing constant reassurance that they're always with me kind of way… but something more grounded and steady and also has a lot of depth and healing attached to it. (It actually does kind of bridge into what we are learning right now).

Like:

feeling close without needing proof
understanding when something is real from them vs when it’s coming from longing
not feeling like the relationship just… ended
continuing your relationship in a spiritual way
overcoming any resentment or shame around the relationship
having a closer connection than you would have ever had with their living person

It’s something that’s helped me a lot when I first found out my mom and dad were dying at the same time... Their deaths empowered me to live life to the fullest and were the catalyst behind my biggest spiritual awakening and awakening of my supernatural gifts. It led me to becoming a spiritual coach and ultimately your headmistress... I’ve been sitting with whether this is something I should share more openly or create space for at some point.

So I’m curious…

👉 Is this something you’ve ever experienced or thought about?

👉 Would support around this even be helpful for you?

No pressure to go deep here. I’m just feeling into whether this is something that would actually serve you because so many people struggle after loss and it doesn't have to be as hard as it is. Death has a big stigma attached to it. It's not final like we are led to believe... We would be learning about the life and death cycle as a result of this work and can in and of itself be therapeutic for people.. Let me know! I'd love to hear you thoughts!

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