7d • General discussion
How can we make the most out of our time on Earth
How can we make the most out of our time on Earth and truly live every day to the fullest?
I used to think that the goal of life was to reach a state of perfect comfort, where the days were easy, and the path was clear. I thought that if I could just organize my life well enough, I could enjoy a kind of permanent vacation. But I have come to realize that this desire for ease is actually a form of hiding. A full life is not found in safety.
You are a candle. A candle that sits unlit in a box may last forever, but it never fulfills its purpose. To truly live is to burn yourself down for something that matters.
The people who leave this world having truly lived didn't have balanced schedules. They had heavy burdens that they chose to carry. They understood that the struggle was the very substance of it.
If you want to make the most of your time, find something difficult that demands everything you have, and give it until you have nothing left. The only true waste is to arrive at the end of your days completely rested, having never really started at all.
We need to put Creator (God, Universe, The Great Spirit, Allah or whatever name you choose) first in everything you want to do before you begin, what you desire to have day and night, then you have to work because without work nothings possible. Chances are very high that you won't get what you desire.
Attachments show up in various disguises: Practicality, habits, duties, views, possessions, relationships, rituals, ceremonies, traditions, and more. We see their true nature when the spell cast by them is lifted.
But they make our world go!
True, for a householder, this is the world. It's attachment to and clinging to objects that cause suffering, not the objects themselves.
Is it better to be wise or happy?
I think they are bound together. Wisdom is not just knowing things but involves living on things we believe and know to be right, which will lead to true happiness. Feeling good and comfortable for me is not happiness proper, but living on the truths, on the harmony of the natural world, and using things as they should be used, which will lead to wisdom. And one can live comfortably outwardly for a whole life in luxury, but that seems to be not happiness, as inwardly one must always deal one way or another with his demons, with his desires, his greed, his hatred, his pleasure, his pain,…. and without wisdom, like a compass in a ship, he will get lost and become a slave to his irrational part.
Well said, Cornstarch.
Wisdom is the key enabler for sorrow. Happiness is temporary. Aim for contentment
I completely disagree with the idea that wisdom enables anything wrong. True wisdom—especially the kind Creator gives because He/She is the One Who blessed us with wisdom as we travel throughout our personal lives—is always meant for good, for growth, and for helping others. Happiness is an inside job. You have to choose it on purpose every single day, even on the days you don’t feel it yet. Keep choosing it, and eventually, your heart catches up. Happiness isn’t temporary when it’s intentional; if it shows up in your life daily, it’s because you invited it in. Contentment is a peaceful place to rest, but don’t let it turn into complacency. Real strength is built through wisdom, intentional happiness, and steady contentment working together.
Can a person change their fate?
It is much more comfortable to say, "This is just how things are" than to admit. "This is who I have chosen to be." The chains that bind us are almost always locked from the inside. We stay in patterns that make us unhappy simply because we know what to expect from them. Uncertainty is often scarier than misery.
So, yes, you can change your fate, but not by fighting the world or trying to force a new outcome. You change it by doing the one thing that feels unnatural: stepping out of the comfort of your own history.
You have to be willing to be a stranger to yourself. The moment you stop reacting the way you always react, the script breaks. It isn't loud or heroic. It’s just the terrifying decision to stop repeating the past.
Yes
Good timing for me
How can one be happy without money?
Money is often just a mechanism for removing friction. It allows you to solve problems without asking for help and to live without relying on anyone else.
But that friction is actually where the good stuff is. When you can’t buy your way out of a situation, you have to lean on your community and your own resilience.
You are forced to be useful to the people around you, and they are forced to be useful to you. That mutual dependence creates a depth of connection that is almost impossible to replicate when you are completely self-sufficient.
Happiness comes from being deeply woven into the lives of others.
By owning a wave runner. You'll need money at first, but you'll have no money after you buy one (get 2), and you'll definitely have no money…. but you'll be happy. If you get 2, you can make a friend happy too.
How can individuals stay motivated and achieve their goals, even during difficult times? Most people wait to feel good before they start moving.
Action produces the feeling of motivation, not the other way around.
When things are difficult, the waiting is what drains you.
If you simply start moving, even if it feels mechanical or heavy, the chemistry changes.
It turns out that resilience is not a trait you are born with or a mood you summon. It is just what happens when you refuse to stop moving.
You don't need to feel hopeful to act. You just act, and eventually, the hope catches up with you.
Good morning, I believe in a better world even though I don’t live it.
Or summarized, "Feelings follow action."
Is it possible to have a truly objective perspective?
No, I think along with ‘will’ comes a ‘must’ to see things subjectively, so that we form our own individuality; I think the whole goal is to share and connect through each of our own individuality, so that with it we can live out our purpose become who we’re supposed to be while also contributing back to this interconnected objective, although it’s always changing, always evolving, never really stays the same.
Is it better to be wise or happy?
Happiness is not something you can grab directly, like picking fruit off a tree. It is something that results from how you live.
What makes human beings unique is not our strength, speed, or instincts. Animals have those. What distinguishes us is our rational faculty, our ability to think, reason, judge, plan, and choose.
Unlike animals, we are not born knowing how to survive and thrive. We must figure it out. We must decide:
What kind of work to pursue
Who to trust
How to handle money
How to raise children
What values to live by
What risks to take and which to avoid
Every major outcome in life flows from these decisions.
That is where wisdom comes in.
Wisdom is not just knowledge. It is the skill of using your rational mind well, identifying reality accurately, understanding cause and effect, and choosing actions that promote your long-term well-being.
Wise decisions tend to produce:
Stable finances
Meaningful work
Strong relationships
Self-respect
Peace of mind
And from those conditions, happiness naturally grows.
On the other hand, trying to pursue happiness without wisdom often leads to the opposite:
Short-term pleasure, long-term regret
Comfort today, problems tomorrow
Emotional highs followed by instability and anxiety A person who ignores reason and judgment may feel good for a moment, but they quietly build a life that collapses under its own contradictions.
So the real sequence is this:
Wisdom =Good decisions =A good life =Happiness
You don’t choose between wisdom and happiness.
You choose wisdom so that happiness becomes possible.
In short:
Be wise first. A good life follows. And happiness becomes its reward.
Stoics: Do humans exist to create meaning or to discover it? Everything that is known and is to be known was from the beginning of time
We are merely discovering it
The universe often hides secrets. It is up to us to uncover them”
Actually, we can do both. We did discover it, or how would the question even change into being?
Is it better to be wise or happy?
Wise.
Wisdom teaches you that all feelings are impermanent and will pass.
Wisdom isn't a feeling. It's a state of being
Wise, I'll take wisdom every time. Happiness doesn't last forever, and ignorance is bliss.
Think of a situation where everything is already out of your hands. You’ve said what you needed to say. You’ve done your part. Now, all that’s left is waiting. And waiting hurts — because hope keeps whispering “If this doesn’t go the way I want, something will be lost.”
That’s where fear enters.
The moment you loosen that grip — when you stop needing life to answer you in a specific way, something shifts. The anxiety fades. The mind gets quieter. You’re still present, still open to whatever comes, but no longer hostage to it.
Letting go of hope here doesn’t mean giving up. It means trusting yourself and your instincts.
How can I stay on track with anything without getting distracted?
We rarely get distracted when we are doing something that feels vital. The mind does not wander when it is truly captivated. If you find yourself constantly fighting to pay attention, it is usually because you are trying to force yourself to care about things that don't actually matter to you. The struggle is about a lack of alignment.
The secret is to find a path so compelling that you stop noticing the world is even there. When you are working on something that deeply resonates with you, focus stops being a chore and starts being a relief. You stay on track by finding the track that pulls you along.
Will you be bored if you watch the most beautiful thing in the world every day? The fear that beauty fades with repetition is wrong. Deep familiarity is actually the only way to see something clearly. The really interesting details only emerge after you have watched something for a long time.
The world is much more dynamic than we give it credit for. If you stand in front of the ocean every single day, you never actually see the same water twice. The feeling of losing interest is usually just a failure of attention. The discipline is to keep your eyes open long enough to realize that the thing you are watching is changing, and so are you.
I like it when someone has a piece of art in their home just because they want to see it every day.
How do I stop being dependent on my feelings, whether I feel good or bad?
The connection between how you feel and what you do is imaginary. We usually operate under the assumption that our internal state is a prerequisite for action, that we need to feel confident to speak or calm to make a decision. But that is not true.
You can feel absolutely terrible, filled with doubt or irritation, and still take the exact right step. The world receives the action the same way regardless of the emotion behind it. The feeling has no hands to stop you.
You don't have to fix the feeling first. You can just carry it with you, heavy or light, and keep walking.
How can you let go of bad habits?
Is it possible to have a truly objective perspective?
What is the perfect philosophy to live life?
Are humans capable of being completely objective?
What is one thing you can do today to move closer to achieving your long-term goals?
How do I start focusing on myself and stop wasting time doing unbeneficial stuff?
How can I overcome my fears and obstacles?
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