Should children that display "challenging behaviors" be punished? Do children with Oppositional Defiance Disorder or an Emotional/Behavioral Disorder act "bad" on purpose? Often, so often, children that display these characteristics are TRAUMA AFFECTED.
When thinking about how trauma causes us to go into SURVIVAL MODE: making us choose to fight/flee/fawn or freeze. Children who show "challenging behaviors" are in FIGHT mode and their BRAIN'S BELIEVE that they are in danger, mortal danger.
I will talk more about this and how to address these "behaviors" in my classes and videos.
I will say that I also go into FIGHT MODE when my survival instinct is activated, and many people DO consider it a character flaw instead of an issue with my BRAIN not working correctly.
Trauma causes BRAIN DAMAGE. The more trauma the more damage. The longer the trauma lasted the more damage.