1. Consistently disrespecting boundaries — ignores your “no,” privacy, time, or personal space. 2. Dishonesty — frequent lies, hiding important information, or changing stories. 3. Controlling behavior — tries to dictate who you see, what you wear, where you go, or how you spend money. 4. Extreme jealousy — regularly accuses you of cheating without evidence or demands constant reassurance. 5. Never taking accountability — every conflict is somehow always your fault. 6. Manipulation — guilt-tripping, gaslighting, threats, silent treatment, or using affection as leverage. 7. Disrespect toward others — especially service workers, friends, family, or people she has nothing to gain from impressing. 8. Constant drama and conflict — repeated crises, fights, or instability with little willingness to resolve underlying issues. 9. Love-bombing followed by withdrawal — intense affection or commitment very early, followed by sudden coldness or punishment. 10. Abusive behavior — intimidation, threats, physical violence, sexual coercion, or deliberately destroying your property. This is a serious safety issue, not merely a compatibility problem.