Psalm 44 is a communal lament. The key is to note how these people approached God in their suffering. Give it a read, and come back.... I'll wait....
The first 8 verses are the anchor example. The psalm is all about their suffering, and their confusion because they are faithful believers, yet are suffering greatly. They openly ask God why He has not taken notice. But... the first 8 verses are their acknowledgment of the work He has done. It is so important that we do not forget the work God has done. This is our anchor in times of difficulty. God has already shown us who He is, and we must not lose sight of that. God invites our open laments, our cries, our questions about what He is doing or not doing. It is not a lack of faith to question what God is doing.... but it is a whole different thing to question who God is. God is unchanging. He is the same God who rescued you yesterday, and today is no different. When in suffering and trials, look back at what He has already done. The Israelites are told over and over again in the OT to Remember. We must do the same. Make a list. Sit and recall all that you can in your life where you can see God's hand, providence, sovereignty, positioning, rescue, intervention, mercy, deliverance, etc. Keep this list where you can see it. Do not forget- let the list be your monument.
God bless you, sisters!