I have just had a bad experience right now (I am moving appartment and will not go into details).
Anyway, I was too patient, I also gave the benefit of the doubt.
Now I am upset. Instead of setting the boundaries before and setting a limit time frame, I trust the person.
Next time, I need to set the boundary the earliest as possible and not be afraid to hurt and to look rude. Cause otherwise, I am sitting here, upset and wasting my time.
Also, nobody wants to get at a stage where it all becomes overwhelming. Better to be assertive from the beginning.
However, I am still struggling to get to this clean boundaries era:
My problem is that I am still afraid to hurt and be seen so rude than nobody would want to approach me anymore.